- Set Proper Expectations
- Do what you say you’re going to do
These 2 simple things are some of the most powerful things I’ve learned in business, relationships and life. While they’re not profound, they are so rarely done by most people, doing these 2 things will be noticed, felt and impactful.
Setting proper expectations for you everything you do in life is important. It sets you up for disappointment or success.
Ever been to a movie that was hyped up, you just couldn’t wait to see it and when you finally did, you were….disappointed? What about that movie that you never heard of, caught late at night and now it’s one of your favorites?
Your expectation of the value being delivered and the actual value delivered leads to one of two things: being disappointed or being delighted.
This principle can set you up for failure or success in all areas of life.
What if you started a diet expecting to lose 10lbs every week?
Or right out of college you expected to make $1 million per year?
Not only are those unrealistic but you would be pretty disappointed when they didn’t come true. That disappointment leads to a negative emotion that dis-empowers us. Setting a realistic goal and then achieving or exceeding creates a positive emotion of delight. What makes us feel good, we tend to do more of. What makes us feel bad, we tend to do less of.
Continuing with the theme of creating negative experiences, saying you’re going to do something and not delivering feels pretty much the same as a lie. While many people intend well, it creates disappointment and it causes people to lose trust in you.
Why would a client want to do business with you if you are constantly making promises and then breaking them? What about the woman you are dating if you constantly are running late, don’t show up or cancel last minute? What are you telling yourself if you make a promise and then break it?
You are sub-communicating that you are not trustworthy, you don’t mean what you say and those people are not that important to you.
Always follow through on what you say you’re going to do. Your word is your bond. If you can’t deliver, call your client or significant other to explain why you couldn’t and reset a new, realistic time-frame.
Start doing these 2 simple things in all areas of your life and you will be taking BIG STEPS towards being more successful.