On a recent coaching call with one my new clients who is embarking on a new career, we started getting into her belief systems and her self-doubt.
She has been successful in area of her life which includes being a great mother, maintaining optimal health, having meaningful relationships and even being successful in her career.
As we started digging into some concerns she had about this business she is starting, some frustrations and fears started to emerge.
She was frustrated that she wasn’t where she wanted to be. While having drive and wanting more is a part of the motivation and ambition that compels people to high levels, unrealistic expectations and not celebrating the progress you is disempowering.
As we dug into the root of this frustration, a limiting belief of self-doubt emerged. She had always thought she wasn’t good enough.
Belief systems are powerful things that drive everything we do. A positive one creates confidence, conviction, passion and motivation. A negative creates fear, anxiety, doubt and insecurity.
When you have a belief system, you look for evidence to support it. If you believe you’re not good enough, you will look for all the times you didn’t accomplish, you fell short and failed. You will reinforce that belief and ultimately bring in negative emotions that act like an anchor in your business or professional life.
As we started challenging this belief system and reinforcing new, positive and empowering ones you could tell in her voice that her confidence and conviction had changed. Now this isn’t something that will change overnight as you constantly have to build up that new belief system until it just becomes you.
The tipping point is when your belief in yourself becomes stronger than your self-doubt. This is done by challenging and weakening limiting beliefs and creating new, powerful and positive beliefs that will propel you forward.
From working with highly successful people for over 13 years, I’ve learned that these people have so much conviction, confidence and self belief that even when they take risks by entering new careers, starting businesses or re-inventing their current career, they have succeeded because they had far exceeded the tipping point.
One of my clients, a CFO of a large company, meets with Warren Buffet 4 times per year. Hearing this man talk, the way he thinks and how he approaches life is very inspiring. He’s the kind of person that you want to lead, that you will follow because he has so much belief. He’s been successful for so long that the option of failure isn’t even on his radar.
Whether you’re just starting to focus on your career, starting a new business or making a change, take the time to think about what you believe.
- Do you believe you are good enough?
- Do you believe you have what it takes to be successful?
- If you don’t have all the skills you need, do you believe that you can acquire them?
- If you are unhappy with your situation or want more success but seem stuck, do you believe you can change it? Is it permanent?
If you identify a negative limiting belief, start challenging it with experiences that disprove that belief. Think of new beliefs that are positive and will get you were you want to go. Find examples that will re-enforce those beliefs.
Much like Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can or can’t, you’re probably right.”